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“Lil is a wonderful lady, but she’s not suitable to be a speaker at our event.” Lulan says. Jil shows up in the previous story “The Harvest” here.
“Well, she’s good looking, wealthy, with a perfect husband and a brilliant kid. She’s everything that we are not. We are just average Jane. It’s OK if you are a little jealous.” Ivy says.
“I am not jealous. Well, jealousy is irrelevant anyway. I am just saying that her manifold loveliness is exactly what disqualifies her for our event.” Lulan says.
Every fall, Ivy and her husband Tom Tsai, the owners of Ivy Training Center in Edison, New Jersey, will host a series of free seminars, for which speakers are invited to give speeches on various topics including education, interview skills, job trends, ESL (ESL stands for English As Second Language) etc. Ostensibly they are to serve the Asian immigrant community, but in reality they are the promotional events to help generate business leads and increase the business volume for the training center. Lulan is an unemployed anthropologist who works for Ivy.
Lil is scheduled to make her annual appearance as the authority on family relations and child rearing. She will be speaking to a roomful of middle aged people who want to know how to manage a better family while raising a child who lives in two different cultures.
“Lil is a perfect example of womanhood and we’ve been inviting her to give speeches every year for a decade. The audience likes her. She’s cute, fashionable, and articulate. Basically she has good vibes and she can attract people and that’s good for our business.” Ivy says.
“Lil’s too perfect. Her life experience is too different from average women and her speech is useless to the women who listen to her. She has good looks and good manners, but what she says is just crap.” Lulan says.
“If not Lil, what do you have in mind?” Ivy asks.
“Feifei will be a perfect candidate. Remember her? Her son Mak is one of our students in after-school training courses. How much Mak has improved?” Lulan says.
“You are kidding, right? Feifei? How can you come up with such an idea. She’s divorced first of all. Then she dated somebody unreliable. Her son is an average student. Somebody told me that she adopted a dog from the shelter but didn’t know how to clean up the dog pee on the carpet. Her place smells like a pigsty.” Ivy says.
“I think I said something about her place five years ago. Great memory. Anyway, at the time she’s depressed as her husband ran away. She’s desperate, I mean emotionally, and fell hard for somebody who turned out to be very bad for her. She adopted the dog just to help her and her son to cope with the tragedy. I have to say she eventually learned how to clean up after the dog. Now I think she and her son are back to normal. Her life experience can be so useful for many women, who can learn a lot from her. And her concern for her son is so genuine and she loves him dearly, which is why he can improve so much. She’s the best speaker for our event. On the other hand, Lil comes from a wealthy family from Southeast Asia. She doesn’t need to do anything to get what she gets in life. Lil knows nothing about the struggle of an Asian immigrant woman. Her husband is sweet and helpful by nature; her son is academically competent by birth. She doesn’t have to do much at all. She also has a long time servant as well as her in-laws to help her with house chores. And the most serious problem with her is that she has a bit of self adulation which prevents her from understanding her son’s difficult position as an Asian American boy at school. Lil thinks her way is the correct way and other people’s way is ridiculous. If anything undesirable happens in her son’s life, she thinks it’s due to the decadent American culture or the incompetent teachers or her son’s immaturity as a teenager. She has no fault at all and she’s the virtuous victim who cannot and should not help anybody. I can’t believe anybody wants to listen to her.” Lulan says.
Lulan knows Lil better than other people. Several years back when Lil was in the process of writing a book about her illustrious genealogy, Lulan was asked to write a chapter on the customs and cultures of the place where Lil’s ancestors lived. Lulan’s academic research of the area makes her one of the best persons to do this. At one point, when the work becomes a little too demanding, Lulan lived in Lil’s house for a month so that they could communicate better at night on editing issues.
“Lulan, I have to say you always have bright ideas that are completely impractical. People will mock me if I ask an average person like Feifei to give a speech. People want to listen to Lil, who’s successful, beautiful, sociable. People get what people want and Ivy Training gets more business leads–it’s a win-win.” Ivy says.
Loving the flow and easy relatability of this prose-like language!
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Thank you for your encouragement. That means a lot to me.
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That’s wonderful post
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Thank you.
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wonderful post. It’s interesting how people and especially women are criticised for getting a divorce and this is seen as a flaw instead of thinking that they are strong to get a divorce and try to live their best life. The actions of women are always put under a microscope and every mistake we make is remembered for our entire life.
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This is especially outrageous in the community I am living in right now. The women being admired are usually those who were born with money and who didn’t have any adversities. What are they being admired for? They got everything by accident and haven’t worked for anything in their life. The worst is that they conform to the social mores with no difficulties because of their birth and their money. Most of other women have a struggling life, but are considered not good enough as an example. I just don’t agree with such kind of general mentality. It is so wrong. I love those women who have gone through life with difficulties and they have lived and loved and struggled. I want to listen to these women and listen to what they have to say.
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Yes absolutely- women from rich families have the privilege of never having to deal with most of the difficulties the rest of us do. And if they do happen to make certain mistakes they have the means to cover it up and make people forget about it. Regular women go through so much and are still seen as the villain.
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That’s so true. They have the money to take care of the trouble and to dig themselves out of a hole if they fall into one. So for these women, life is not difficult. However for 90% of regular women, that is not the case. So don’t listen to those speeches and lectures that will do no good to our life and think for ourselves.
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Love your writing..and this makes me smile 😃
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Thank you. Your comments make me smile too.
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Lulan just wasted her breath.
Your story conveys a tragic truth. Not many care for the struggles of others. If the person is ordinary on the outside but has tremendous inner strength and beauty, it is an overlooked facet.
The shimmer and glimmer of the outsides often take centerstage. Sad but true.
Well written, Haoyan. 🙂
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That’s true. She does waste her breath, regularly. Life is tragic because we tend to favor the untruth over truth sometimes. It is strange but it is what has happened all over the place. Inner beauty and life experiences don’t make the cut in the arena of public gathering. The public is a strange beast, often irrational, almost enjoying being misled.
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Oh that Lulan, but I do love the way she speaks up for Feifei when everyone else judges her.
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Yes, poor Lulan, the proletarian scholar, who always does the right thing but most of them get defeated by reality.
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As the saying goes, every dog has its day. Hopefully Lulan’s efforts will pay off.
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Haha. Yes, every human too. Lulan’s idea will probably one day become feasible.
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I love how your stories capture reality so well and provide the necessary entertainment and humour between the lines. Lovely story! (As always).
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Thank you, Sam. Love your delightful comment and may your positive energy continue to shine upon my blog.
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I kind of lean toward Feifei but maybe Lil is better business choice.
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I second this.
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Me too.
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Yes, me too. This is the world and we should know ourselves and our own life while listening to others with a bit of critical thinking.
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You capture interesting perspectives so well.
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Thank you. Wish you like it. I try to write better, but can only achieve what I am capable of. Hahaha.
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