Why can’t I just keep my big mouth shut? Why can’t I? I mean I should have just left things as they were in their imperfect and unsatisfactory state. It is a little less appealing, but at least everybody was accepting the imperfection, which was something to be satisfied with, right?
However my inner child kicked in again–I was trying to be helpful, to do something about it, to make improvement, to show some “wisdom”. It turned out that my “wisdom” is imagined and believing in one’s imaginary wisdom is just a folly.
So I made a suggestion that sounded doable and clever. And I even got a few praises for it, which were the approval I have always been seeking for. Talk about insecurity and vanity. I have them all. So it takes one or two people a little trouble to carry it out and the result is very disappointing. So now we are back to square one. Now I feel really guilty that I’ve wasted everybody’s time.
How much responsibilities do one have for one’s suggestions? Years of experiences have told me that if it is a difficult issue or situation (which means the rate of success is low), very likely most of the suggestions will lead to bad results. Giving up is probably easier since doubling down–putting in more efforts in hope of getting a better result–will make one more frustrated.
I wish I learn from my mistakes, but I often don’t. I belong to those people who continue to make mistakes, repeating the same thing while expecting different results.
And I know that WordPress allows you to do surveys, but I don’t know how to do it. If I know how to do it, I will create a survey to ask everyone what to do when you are obliged to give suggestions…