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This happens so often-- an agreement is not really an agreement, a consensus is not really a consensus. It's just a negotiation and a resignation, a yearning for a conclusion, for politeness sake, for expediency, under the circumstance. Growing up watching idealistic parents doing the horrible thing, she is afraid of having an ideal for a long time. Then she's afraid she's becoming cynical. Probably her parents were not really idealistic-- they just use ideals for self serving purposes. She's unhappy when she's becoming predictable. However unpredictable is always a bad word. That's just English-- artful and artless are both bad words. The balance, and the rightful amount is beyond the reach of a non-native speaker. If unbalance is the rule of the day, she'd rather choose artless-- her parents exhausted the stock of artfulness in their bitter battle of will for several generations to come. She's not seeking ideal, but rather connection and understanding. Women complaining together? Is that a connection?
Haoyan Do 
Beautifully expressed….
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Thank you so much.
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Interesting poem, and love the ending. As I see it, complaining together merely connects complaints, not people.
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Complaining can be so superficial and the connection is the same.
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We have to move on otherwise it is hurt and pain that are carried into the future! 🌹🙋♂️
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Let’s forget about the past and move on.
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I think the ending touches a very important aspect of human nature. Complaining is therapeutic and the more ears that hear it is always a better proposition. Definitely a connection. One has to move on from past hurts and put life in one’s own perspective. Otherwise, there’s only suffering. A lovely one, Haoyan. 🙂
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So true. So true. Complaining is a wonderful thing and we can’t live our life without whining, but still it is only a connection to a degree. I’ve seen people complaining together and become fast friends, but …
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I found this very beautiful ❤️are we all just agreeing for politeness sake – or path of least resistance. Thank you 🙏
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So true. We agree only to pacify. So true and we try so hard to be polite…
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the woman
is the mother
of all human beings
on earth
the sisters
have to be careful
before the act of violence
and the greed
of the men
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Wonderful poem. And wonderful thoughts. Happy holidays and may you have more insights to share for 2022.
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Beautiful and peaceful poem.
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Thank you.
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