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This happens so often--
an agreement is not really an agreement,
a consensus is not really a consensus.
It's just a negotiation and a resignation,
a yearning for a conclusion,
for politeness sake,
under the circumstance.
Growing up watching idealistic parents
doing the horrible thing,
she is afraid of having an ideal for a long time.
Then she's afraid she's becoming cynical.
Probably her parents were not really idealistic--
they just use ideals for self serving purposes.
She's unhappy when she's becoming predictable.
However unpredictable is always a bad word.
That's just English--
artful and artless are both bad words.
The balance, and the rightful amount
is beyond the reach of a non-native speaker.
If unbalance is the rule of the day,
she'd rather choose artless--
her parents exhausted the stock of artfulness
in their bitter battle of will
for several generations to come.
She's not seeking ideal,
but rather connection and understanding.
Women complaining together?
Is that a connection?