I really don’t have an anniversary date for my blogs since I went on and off for many months before starting to post regularly in May 2020. So let’s just arbitrarily take today as the anniversary date. This reminds me of my grandmother’s birthday, which is actually an arbitrary date. In those eras–before WWII–I was told, children were not given a name or considered survivable creatures before the 100 day mark–apparently child mortality rates were very high indeed. And when a child passed that mark and acquired the right to a name, the parents would often arbitrarily find a lucky date as the birthday that bode well for growth and prosperity. Incidentally, it’s also an era when the lunar calendar was abandoned and the solar calendar was adopted. It ended up everybody got at least two birthdays–one for the lunar calendar and one for the solar. So a person’s birthday can be quite messy.
So for this designated one year anniversary, I will recount all the mistakes I’ve made and am still making.
- Take others’ advice without considering my own preference. I tried very hard to take the advice that one should schedule one’s posts and allocate a time to write. I strive to follow, but I just can’t do it. At the allocated time, I often feel that I don’t want to write and want to do something else instead. I function better without a writing schedule. This sounds strange, but I still don’t know how to deal with it.
- Not Capturing The Wave. Sometimes I can feel that I really want to write several pieces. Don’t let anything or anybody disrupt this wave of enthusiasm. This is really important. If I let the interruption happen, the damage is huge since I might not have another such period for a long time.
- Continue when I feel like blocked. I continued to stare into blank space, pretending that I was think of worthy thoughts, but in reality my mind was blocked and didn’t feel like writing. This had to be stopped. When this happens, don’t force oneself. Let it go and do something else. Actually in such a time, boring house chores are a delightful relief.
- Post it without rereading it at least twice. Actually reading three or more times will be better, but I don’t want to sound too neurotic. I often find spelling and grammar mistakes in my old posts, and people who read my posts have been too polite to point them out to me.
- Spend too much time on pictures. Pictures are great visual aids, but I am no artist. Even if I spend hours on pictures, I still won’t be able to make much progress. It’s a futile effort and a big waste of time. It’s much better to go to Pexels, Unsplash, Pixabay to download a ready made one. Or open up canva.com to select a template that’s already there. Or my last resort–let Microsoft PowerPoint design a pattern for the several pictures I have obtained online.
- Answer every question. The blogosphere is not a school and I am not taking a test. If somebody asks questions I don’t feel like answering–personal questions usually–I am not going to answer it. Don’t do anything that will make oneself uncomfortable.
- Ignore the little impulses. The little impulses are the best things that can happen to me, but for a while I tend to ignore them. When an idea intrudes, try to write it down or commit it to memory. Don’t ignore them.
- Ignore the research. I still don’t know how to do research. I know I should do it, but I have no directions and no leads. I bought two books and read regularly about how to improve my blogging experiences, but still I don’t have a clear idea how to do it. I know it is important and I am thinking of doing it…
- Not having a break. Taking a break from WP from time to time is really important. Sometimes I just want to get away from it all; sometimes I feel that if I don’t get away I might get sick of it.
- Not to do reblog, links, cross-platform posting. This is another big mistake. I know I should do this, but I continue to postpone it. 🤷♀️🤦♀️. Sometimes one is one’s own worst enemy.
I’ve received a wonderful award from Herb, who lavishes his praise on me and I am grateful for his heart felt congratulations. And yes, I would like to have coffee with Herb every day–virtual coffee counts as coffee too, doesn’t it? Thank you, Herb, and a big thank you to all the people who have visited my casual notes. I feel appreciated and acknowledged and loved. Even if we are thousands of miles away, we have found ways to connect, to have rapport, to express and to enjoy. 💖💖💖💖💖