Really? Giving orders and being obedient are the same? I thought they are the opposite. Wait, let me think. They are the same only under the condition that the obedient party is willing to accept the order. And willingness can be hard to define and often the line between willingness and unwillingness is blurred and wavering. Most of us are bound by custom, preoccupied by habits, schooled in a certain way. This doesn’t mean we can relinquish our responsibility towards our own behavior, but it does say that sometimes a manifested willingness is just an automatic reflex towards a familiar stimulus, not a real willingness from an informed reasoning mind.
How about people like me who are grudgingly obedient with everlasting misgivings? I wouldn’t say I am an obedient person, but I am quite non-confrontational and even laid back. Anyway, I look obedient, but I would hate to be considered the same as an authoritarian figure.