Image by S. Hermann & F. Richter from Pixabay
“Koo, I heard that you are such an excellent matchmaker. I mean for a young man, that’s quite unique, isn’t it? Are you still doing it?” Whenever people say that to Koo, he would smile modestly and reply, “well, it’s a complicated undertaking, really. I don’t do it anymore since, you know, often success is the biggest disappointment of all.”
His reply usually puzzles people exceedingly. “What do you mean by that? You are too young to be so philosophical or even cynical. Tell us. What’s going on?”
Koo doesn’t really like to talk about it, but one day at a waterhole near where he works, he drinks a little more than he should, and becomes a little less guarded as he usually is. He opens up.
Koo and her big sister Kami are from a very loving family in Edison, New Jersey. Kami is two years older than Koo, and Koo just loves his sister, who is so energetic, smart, and full of life. Koo can’t understand how such a wonderful sister of his can like a man like Jip. He has only met Jip once at their parents’ place for dinner, but he knows the two is probably getting serious–otherwise Kami would not have introduced Jip to family members. Jip is nice to the point of self effacement, apologetic for no reason. And also unambitious, quiet, and content. The contentment is what really annoys Koo. Jip is so self satisfied even if he dropped his future mother-in-law’s favorite teapot on the marble kitchen floor, said things that would not add any luster to his own manly image. “What does she see in him?” Koo asks himself this question.
Right before their second meeting, Jip suddenly comes up with an idea. It is really a moment of impulse. Koo just finishes talking with Shang from the finance department when he receives a social media message from his sister that they are to meet at their parents place the coming weekend. There will be several families there to celebrate the Lunar New Year. It suddenly dawns on him that Shang is single, available, and age-appropriate for his sister. How come he has never thought about that before? Although Shang and him are not from the same department and are not really friends, Shang is smart, responsible, good-looking. Best of all, Shang just ended his relationship with his girlfriend. Even if Shang may not end up being a real boyfriend to Kami, he probably will drive Jip away. What a good plan.
The day comes and everything goes according to Koo’s plan. However right before the party, Koo suddenly thinks that he should find somebody to attract Jip away–if Jip is always around his sister Kami, Shang may not have his chance. What to do? Although the Asian community here is not really that small, the number of eligible Asians is quite slim. Also this is a last minute thing. Where can he find this girl?
“Of course it should be the neighbor Jasmin.” How come he didn’t think of her before. Actually Jasmin likes Koo, but Koo is not ready for a committed relationship yet. So the two maintains their friendship. The two have grown up together, lived in the neighboring houses, gone to the same school together. So Koo talks to Jasmin and tells her his plan. At first, Jasmin is hesitating, but Koo manages to convince her to come and to make an effort to attract Jip’s attention.
And the party is a great success. Everything happens exactly as Koo has planned and anticipated. Jasmin talks with Jip, and the two even make a special rice pancake together. His sister Kami discusses stock market with Shang, and she even vows to follow Shang’s suggestions. After the dinner, Koo suggests that they can gather three tables of mahjong, which is his parents’ favorite pastime. Mahjong playing is kind of like extended poker game played with tiles instead of cards.
And at one table, Koo contrives to gather Shang, Kami, Jip, Jasmin together. Koo thinks that Shang’s brilliance in game and math and memory will outshine everybody else, and will certainly attract his sister Kami’s attention. How can Kami still love Jip when Shang wins and Jip loses?
And things turn out exactly as Koo has imagined. Shang wins and he not only wins, he can also remember all the tiles and tells Jip what he should have done to win next time. And as if by design, Jip can’t even appreciate Shang’s sharp mind, saying something like “game is just for fun”. The contrast between the two men cannot be more obvious.
And in the following day, Koo is so happy about his success. Actually it seems to be more successful than he designed it to be. Jasmin sends him a message saying that she has finally got over him and finds the love of her life. A minute later, his sister Kami sends a message saying that she understood his intention of inviting Shang over, and thanks to the previous night, especially the Mahjong table, she has understood everything, including her heart, more clearly. Koo cannot be happier for the result.
However when he accidentally meets Shang again several days later at the company cafeteria, it transpires that he gets the story completely wrong. Shang and Jasmin hooked up–Jasmin admired Shang’s brilliance and Shang finds solace in Jasmin’s warmth.
And his sister Kami talks with him about her decision to get married with Jip. “Koo, if it is not for the comparison at the Mahjong table, I won’t be aware of Jip’s merits. Jip’s so kind and sensitive to my feelings, unlike Shang, who just wants to win and win like a little robot.”
Koo has never felt more sour about these two successful matchmaking he has done. However he soon gets over it and becomes good friends with everybody.
Just realised I should have said the poem was in the Scots *language*. I’ll get into trouble for calling it a dialect!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Scottish language? Is it like a Germanic language? That is so interesting. Hmm, the line can be blurred between a language and a dialect.
LikeLike
Haha yes- very Scottish – to the point of unintelligibility in parts! Scots is generally regarded as a separate langauge. I shouldn’t really have described it as a dialect. I’ll get into trouble if any Scotsman reads the above!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Scots dialect!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Wonderful
LikeLike
Interesting – and it’s made me curious. Do the Asian community in your part of the world always try to find partners within their own community? What is the reaction of their elders, relatives and friends if they look outside the community? Does matchmaking only apply to relationships within the community? Hope I’m not too nosey LOL!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, I should write stories about this since I have witnessed many. It is a great point you bring up, but it is a sensitive issue. I still haven’t figured out a way to approach this. I don’t want to fall into cliche and I also don’t want to be politically incorrect. There are many hidden land mines to wade through if I want to write these stories. One thing I am actually quite certain is that I wish people can go out of their own community more and try to connect with other people–it is a difficult thing to do but it is well worth doing it. However we all tend to be lazy and have a “why-bother” attitude.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes – and I suppose it depends a lot on who reads your blog – whether they would be offended or not.
LikeLiked by 1 person
So true. I really have no experience with “correctness” and often I’m afraid that I make another faux pas.
LikeLiked by 1 person
A case of sour grapes. Well at least he tried. A good story with a warm twist. Sometimes it’s best to leave things to themselves. 🙂
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, so true. It is best to leave things as they are. Thank you for the sweet encouragement, always. You make me want to write more “sour grape” stories. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
At least he could boast 100% success rate at making matches..even if the pairing was wrong!
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes, you are right on the spot. This is where I get my original inspiration–there’s a couple who like to fix up others, but they tend to make plan on the wrong pairs.
LikeLiked by 1 person
🤩🤩well intentioned but….heart has its reasons!!
LikeLiked by 1 person
So true. I totally agree. Heart is a strange creature.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Koo is so good at match making that even he does not know when he is making one.
LikeLiked by 2 people
So true. Haha. So true. He is doing it without knowing he is doing it.
LikeLike
I hope he also retired from matchmaking, lol.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Haha, he has a good success rate, but not as he intended.
LikeLiked by 1 person
The best laid plans of mice and men . . .
LikeLiked by 2 people
I swear I heard of this phrase before, but I don’t know what it means. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
To be honest, me too. I think it was from an old English novel or essay.
LikeLiked by 1 person
It’s from “To A Mouse” by Robert Burns. Great Poem! https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/43816/to-a-mouse-56d222ab36e33
LikeLiked by 2 people
Wow, the Scottish language or dialect sounds different from English.
LikeLike
Scots dialect poem, I should have added.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Just read the poem. It was very Scottish!
LikeLiked by 2 people
I wonder what scottish really sounds like. Youtube says it has wir and tae in there.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Here is a video of a guy from the American South talking to a Scottish guy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73uATsa8y5Y
LikeLiked by 1 person
Well, I can understand the guy behind the camera, but I have difficulty understand the guy in front of the camera. I had to turn on the subtitle. I haven’t used English subtitles for at least a decade. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Haha, that’s same way I feel about talking with my Scottish friend!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Really? They have a very interesting accent. However I think if people stay with them for a little while, they will get used to it.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Funny you should say that. When I watched “Bend it Like Beckham” I had a harder time understanding the British characters. The older Indian characters with their Indian accents? No problem, haha!
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes, they do stretch English so much. LOL. I love different accents.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sounds great.
LikeLike