Arjian is a local hairdresser, but his true passion is poker. He’s very skilled in women’s hair and very good at following the latest trend of South Korean singers and actresses. Consequently he’s always in high demand. There are women who would travel all the way from Eastern Pennsylvania to come to Edison, New Jersey–about 100 miles–to see Arjian. He is so good and so popular. Other hairdressers just can’t compete with him.
He’s been a hairdresser for twenty years and anybody else, as sought after as he is, would have had an established life by now with a modest house or a modest hair salon. However, Arjian is not a man who can manage his life very well. At first, he started a salon with his wife, who helped him with all the appointments and other business side of things. However he couldn’t stand working with his wife. Not that he doesn’t love his wife. He loves his wife, but he couldn’t stay with her 24 hours a day 7 days a week. That’s just too much for him to bear. So he and his wife ended up working separately in two different salons, and financially it’s not the best arrangement.
After that, he got himself into a partnership with another hairdresser. They jointly owned a salon, but before long arguments about finances and work responsibilities arose. It became so bad that they had to split. Somehow Arjian was the one who had to move out and the moving is more costly than he originally thought.
And finally Arjian is quite fond of poker, which grew from an occasional visit to casinos to a systematic participation in competitive poker games. He often starts with the game of $500 entry fee and works his way up to the second round and then the third round. Several times he even reached the fourth round, where the professional gamblers would come in, each with $20,000 entry fee.
“Look, you’ve got blotches on your skin and you are losing a lot of your hair recently. It must be the stress from the gambling.” His wife says to him sternly in the morning.
“Oh, come on. I am not stressed. Poker keeps me alive.” Arjian says.
“You call it alive and I call it stress. You can’t go on like this.” His wife insists. Arjian often wonders why Asian women have the stereotypical reputation of being submissive and agreeable. In his life, he’s never met one Asian woman like that. If anything, he’s always been the peacemaker in his relationship with his wife.
“OK. I hear you.” He says.
“So you are not going this time, are you?” His wife stares at him.
He doesn’t say anything. When his wife turns around, he swiftly moves towards the door. He steps out and gets into his car. As the engine starts, his wife emerges.
He rolls down the window and feels that she wants to pierce him with her stare.
“OK, this is the last time. I promise. The last time.” He smiles awkwardly. Then he looks at himself in the visor mirror–the blotches his wife talks about–and sighs. “I am getting old. Don’t be mean to me. Be nice.”
His wife throws up her arms and makes a helpless gesture.
The car drives away instantly. Arjian wonders to himself how many “last time” he can pull off before reaching the limit of his wife’s tolerance.
Typical gambler Wifestyle and Menstyle !
LikeLiked by 1 person
πππ
LikeLiked by 1 person
Well, it’s an addictive game. I think his wife should join him, maybe that will get him our o
LikeLiked by 1 person
Oops.
Maybe that will get him out of thereπ
LikeLiked by 1 person
I think you are absolutely correct. I witnessed several women accompanying their husband, just to exert certain control on the purse string when he’s gambling away. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Haha I so understand what Arjian is dealing with in regards to being a business partner with his wife — mixing work with pleasure can be a nightmare cocktail. Sometimes you need the space and the room to just focus, keep things professional and manage operations the way a business is supposed to be run without too many personal things getting into the way.
On the other hand and ironically, the one thing the wife surely would do is probably keep him from wasting his money on alcohol and “gambling”, because wives and alot of women in general regardless of nationality or race, tend to not play games when it comes to finances π€£π€£. This in of itself might sound like a stereotype but it is very true lol
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes, it does. Wish them a good disciplined life, away from gambling.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Nicely done β π
In times of Korean wave
I am big fan of Japanese actors π
I am great fan of J drama and K drama as well π
LikeLiked by 4 people
Me too. LOL. I love Japanese and Korean actors. And actresses too. And watching “Dae Jang Geum” so obsessively that I almost starved and dehydrated. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thanks dear for suggesting a drama π
I will watch it this weekend for sureππ π
LikeLike
Can you suggest me good Japanese dramas as well ??
I want to learn Japanese ππ€©π€©
LikeLiked by 1 person
I watch it on and off “Kodoku No Gurume”–the lonely gourmet. LOL. I think it is still on Netflix, translated into “Solitary Gourmet” LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
No worries I will search it, and watch..
Watching is important….
THANK YOU π ππ
LikeLiked by 1 person
If you think that show is too Asian, you can probably follow this American girl who watch Netflix shows to brush up her Japanese: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZS5ooc_M-Tg
LikeLiked by 1 person
I love Asian shows more π
I don’t watch American ππ
And about the link below I will sure get help from it π
Thank you π
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sorry I misunderstood. LOL. Wish you have a lovely day and wonderful week. πππ
LikeLike
No problems π
You too have a great day π
LikeLike
As long as he lives, he is going to do that ‘one last time’ and his wife if going to stare at him and throw the tantrums everytime he goes out. That’s how it works in Asian families, isn’t it?
LikeLiked by 7 people
That’s true. The bitterness in the air, the resentment unspoken… I hope she will come up with a way to rein him in.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Asian women submissive and agreeable?? No way! Ask me. I’m oneπ₯°π
LikeLiked by 5 people
I am Indian!π― (From India also called Bharatβ )but can be clubbed with the term Asian..
LikeLiked by 2 people
Wow, that is awesome my friend. Thanks for updating me and putting things into perspective β€ ππ
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes, we Asian women club should support each other in our fight against prejudice and stereotype. We often feel alone in our fight, often feel dispirited by people taunting and suppressing us, often fight without a good strategy. However we grow and we learn. We get better. It is a good cause and it is a worthy progress.
LikeLike
You are soooooo right. Such stereotype is beyond comprehension. I don’t even know how it started. We are the toughest and bitterest homo sapiens on planet earth. Let’s debunk the myth together and sharpen our writing skills along the way.
LikeLiked by 2 people
I absolutely love your theme!
LikeLiked by 1 person
I’ve never understood that ridiculous submissive Asian women stereotype either- the only people who believe it are those that have never met any Asian women.
Gambling additions are so sad- gambling gives you a high but it’s really not worth it. I was just talking to my mum about her friend and their family. They got addicted to gambling and have recently lost all their money and still refuse to stop gambling.
LikeLiked by 7 people
You are absolutely right. Asian women are tough, reserved, and bitter as hell. LOL. I mean the “bitterness” is the most conspicuous and most prominent trait. I was shocked that there exists such a stereotype of submissiveness. So ridiculous. We could only laugh. ππ€£.
Tell me about it. There are several people that I know (not friends, but I know them) who gamble away their restaurant, stores, their family. People tell me that one waiter in a popular restaurant used to be the owner of that very restaurant, but he gambled it away.
LikeLiked by 4 people
Haha stereotypes are always very far from the truth π
Yeah I have heard a lot of stories of people ruining their life because of gambling and losing everything they own. I heard of a lady who gambled away all of her and her families money and the husband was so shocked when he found out he had a heart attack and died. It’s quite sad to see people destroy their lives because of addiction.
LikeLiked by 2 people
Yes, that’s so true. I know people who save every penny in their life, but they can gamble all their money away in casinos. I am speechless. I wonder if there’s a psychological explanation for gambling. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yeah I’ve learnt about it in psychology when I was learning about addictions and it’s similar to all other addictions in that people are always chasing that high you get when you win which is quite rare but worth it for them.
LikeLike
Sorry to interrupt your convo, yeah gambling is so addictive just because the return (pleasure) is unpredictable. Read about Skinner experiment on rats and pigeons, it can give more insights ! Well this post is nicely written, typical Asian life !
LikeLiked by 1 person
Thank you. Yes, gambling is quite prevalent. Some more serious. I can imagine if I’ve ever won anything in Atlantic City, I would probably be addicted too, but fortunately I’ve never won anything at all. LOL.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Sounds like he has an addiction. But when he gets to those high stakes levels, does he win? If he played his cards right he could retire early. (I thought I’d use an idiomatic expression that seems to fit really well. To play your cards right means you take advantage of those little breaks you get in life sometimes.)
LikeLiked by 7 people
That’s a wonderful pun. Let’s pray that he plays his cards right but he just can’t. I don’t know how people can do it at the high stake level. I mean I would have had a heart attack to lose that much money in just one shot. LOL. He never wins. He ends up throwing away 500 dollars each time.
LikeLiked by 3 people
That’s really too bad.
LikeLiked by 1 person
Yes. that’s what I think too. ππ
LikeLiked by 1 person
Not all its cut out to be.
LikeLiked by 4 people
That’s so true. He should just give it up. LOL.
LikeLiked by 2 people